Becca Bratt Update - out of porn for good!
Becca Bratt left the porn industry two years ago and is now living a whole new life. After a heroin overdose, she made her way back home to her parents and God began to restore their relationship in amazing ways.
Becca contacted Shelley Lubben last year and more
Internet Filter
We would like to encourage you to install an internet filter. We can recommend SafeeyesThis program includes an optional accountability part, which works excellent. Yes and it does cost money, but it's worth it. Photo: Aboutpixel.de
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VIDEO: Former Porn-Producer talks about his way out of pornproduction
Donny Pauling talks in this video about his way out, leaving porn production behind him and what his years in pornproduction also cost him personnaly.
With permission from Donny Pauling and xxxchurch.
"The Road to Grace" - Mike Genung
"The Road to Grace", by Mike Genung, one of the best books we have read so far on the issue of porn and porn addiction. It's a book we also recommend for women who do not know how to handle the porn situation with their husbands and/or do not know whom to contact for help.Mike Genung is direct and clear in what he writes, without going into graphic details as some books tend to do, which give even more ideas for men and women to get into ''things''. Request information on Book: click here
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VIDEO: Pete the Puppet - with German Subtitles
With permission from xxxchurch 2006.
''You cannot be perfect, but you can walk in the light!''
''You cannot be perfect, but you can walk in the light!'' - It's important to be open and transparent on the issue of oneself being in involved in porn. ''Porn-Power" looses 80 % of it's strength once you start being open and honest to yourself and others. Many have experienced this. It's important to find friends with whom you can talk openly and honestly.
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VIDEO: I was caught watching Porn ...
Porn is an issue today, more than we think. The bible talks a lot about sexual issues, more than we may be aware of, more than we talk about in church.Time to address the issue. Photo: Aboutpixel.de
Shelley Lubben - The Truth Behind the Fantasy of Porn
Shelley Lubben - former pornstar:"Sex-packed porn films featuring freshly-dyed blondes whose evocative eyes say “I want you” are quite possibly one of the greatest deceptions of all time. Trust me, I know. I did it all the time, and I did it for the lust of power and the love of money. I never liked sex. I never wanted sex and in fact I was more apt to spend time with Jack Daniels than some of the studs I was paid to “fake it” with. That’s right none of us freshly-dyed blondes like doing porn. In fact, we hate it. We hate being touched by strangers who care nothing about us. We hate being degraded with their foul smells and sweaty bodies. Some women hate it so much you can hear them vomiting in the bathroom between scenes. Others can be found outside smoking an endless chain of Marlboro lights" more...
I committed adultery with a married mother of three, and played a major role in destroying their family - Mike
Abstract with permission of Mike Genung 2007 - Link to Mike Website see below.I grew up in a Christian home and accepted Christ at an early age. However there were some problems in our family which included sexual abuse, and I learned to cope by using sex for comfort and love. I started with the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue, Playboy and masturbation, and then graduated to hard core porn, promiscuity, sex with prostitutes, , and adultery. Along the way I broke up a family of five, (as a single man I committed adultery with a married mother of three, and played a major role in destroying their family), picked up an STD from a woman I met at a bar more... Photo: Aboutpixel.de
Linda's Story
Abstract with permission of Mike Genung 2007 - Link to Mike Website see below.It is a lazy Sunday afternoon. The football game is on TV, the snacks are on the coffee table, and my husband and our 13-year-old daughter are lounging in chairs during a commercial break. The game comes back on, or rather the cheerleaders do….the camera focuses on a barely dressed blonde bombshell. My daughter turns to ask her dad a question about the score, but his eyes are glued to the TV. “Dad, I just asked you who was winning! Did you hear me?” “Huh, what’s that? I’m sorry, honey… tell me again?” more... Photo: Aboutpixel.de
Answer to Sex Addiction
Abstract with permission of Mike Genung 2007 - Link to Mike Website see below.Finding true freedom from sex addiction does not come from working programs, reading books, attending groups, counseling or Bible knowledge. These are valid and important tools God uses as a part of the healing process, but in of themselves they don't set the struggler with sex addiction free. Why? Because until he fills the hole in his soul with something bigger, stronger and more attractive than sexual sin, the gnawing emptiness inside of him will continue to drive him to lust. The spiritual vacuum within must be resolved for true, life changing freedom. In the 9 years I spent in the 12 step program for sex addiction, I got about 4-1/2 years ... more... Photo: Aboutpixel.de
Book recommendation on the issue of porn and porn addiction
"Every mans" "The Dirty Little Secret:
Battle!" Uncovering the Truth
Stephen Arterburn Behind Porn" - Craig Gross
I have read a lot of books on the issue of porn and porn addiction. Many of which I would not recommend - often too detailed giving more ideas or they are too heavy. Two books however we have found to be very good and helpful. Book Order: i.e. Amazon
Healing a Broken Marriage From Adultery
Abstract with permission of Mike Genung 2007- Link to Mike Website see below.Picture taking a 9” stiletto knife, and then plunging into your wife’s back, all the way to the hilt. Then as she screams in pain and horror at the recognition that you, her best friend have stabbed her, you say “I’m sorry. Can you please get over this quickly?”
Adultery cuts into the fragile and vulnerable places of the heart causing indescribable pain and trauma... more... Photo: Aboutpixel.de
Men and business trips
Business trips are for me always a challenge. Often being in the hotel room, tired, hungry and lonesome with the possibility to watch ''blue movies'' (sex TV channels). Here a few tips that have helped me to stay clean:- Ask the hotel reception to centrally turn of the blue movie channel in your room. If this is not possible ask them to remove the TV.
- Stick a family photo of yours on the TV screen. It works miracles : )
- Have your wife phone you a few times in the evening.
- Stay cool and do not fear.
- Pray with your wife before you go on the business trip. Photo: Aboutpixel.de
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VIDEO: Critical Mass with their song "Dorian Gray" on the issue of Pornography
Song-Text:''Furtive Glances, Anxious to be a stranger, Buying what he knows he should ignore Relief when it's done, no one is the wiser, lies to the heart, this time and no more It's like that story of dorian gray Behind a picture it gets more evil each day We think that we can hide our secrets in the dark But the saints and angels see us fall Like rain down from heaven our prayers like tears fall When we run away they can't reach us at all Exploited women, We pass it off as art, But garbage in gives nothing but garbage out Washing in mud can never get you clean Inside your hear, there's still that guilty doubt It's like that story of dorian gray Behind a picture it gets more evil each day We think that we can hide our secrets in the dark But the saints and angels see us fall Like ran down from heaven our prayers like tears fall When we run away they can't reach us at all The Say confession is good for the soul Let it cleanse you and make you whole.'' With permission from Critical Mass
Shelley Lubben - The Truth behind the Pornset
Shelley Lubben - former pornstar and now a christian:“A closer look into the scenes of a porn star’s life will show you a movie porn doesn't want you to see. The real truth is we porn actresses want to end the shame and trauma of our lives, but we can’t do it alone. We need you men to fight for our freedom and give us back our honour. We need to be held while we sob tears over our deep wounds and begin to heal. We want you to throw out our movies and help piece together the shattered fragments of our lives. We need you to pray for us the next fifteen years so God will hear and repair our ruined lives“. With permission from Shelley Lubben 2007.
